Tribute to POW/MIA
Don Mathews
Missing Man Table & Honors
Ceremony

The POW-MIA Ceremony is generally
used in conjunction with the opening of a
dinner function.

It originated with several of the ROTC and
JROTC units in Florida and there are
many different versions. Groups who use
the ceremony modify it to suit their local
requirements. For example, JROTC units
often do not have access to hats and do
not use them. Sometimes there are not
enough people to do all five services so
one may be used to represent all services
or four are honored, instead.  Civilians are
also included in some version of this
ceremony.

This table is set for our prisoners of war and those missing
in action from all wars that are too often forgotten. They are
not with us today. Their chairs are empty, but saved for
their hoped return. Let us remember their absence. If set for
six, the empty places represent Americans still missing from
each of the five services -- Army, Navy, Marine Corps, Air
Force, Coast Guard –– and civilians. Dress hats may be
present for each branch of service, and one civilian (plain)
ball cap.

The table is round -- to show our everlasting concern for
our missing men -- Remember.
The tablecloth is white -- symbolizing the purity of their
motives when answering the call to duty so that we all may
remain free - Remember.
The lone candle -- symbolizing the frailty of a prisoner
alone, trying to stand up against her oppressors --
Remember
The black ribbon on the candle -- reminds us of those who
will not be coming home -- Remember.
The single red rose, displayed in a vase -- reminds us of
the life of each of the missing, and the loved ones and
friends of these Americans who keep the faith, awaiting
answers -- Remember.
The vase is tied with a red ribbon, symbol of our continued
determination to account for our missing -- Remember.
The red ribbon may be tied to the vase with a yellow ribbon
-- worn by thousands awaiting their return -- -- Remember
A slice of lemon on the bread plate -- to remind us of the
bitter fate of those captured and missing in a foreign land if
we do not bring them home -- Remember.
A pinch of salt symbolizes the tears endured by those
missing and their families who seek answers -- Remember.
The Bible represents the strength gained through faith to
sustain those lost from our country, founded as one nation
under God.
The faded picture on the table -- reminds us that they are
missed very much and are remembered by their families --
Remember
The glass is inverted -- to symbolize their inability to share
this toast with us now -- maybe tomorrow if we Remember.
The chairs are empty -- they are missing -- Remember.

Let us now raise our water glasses in a toast to honor
America's POW/MIAs and to the success of our efforts to
account for them.

As we look upon this empty table, do not remember ghosts
from the past, remember our comrades. Remember those
whom we depended on in battle. They depend on us to
bring them home.
Remember our friends, they are the ones we love -- who
love life and freedom as we do.
They will remember what we do. Please honor and
remember them.
Missing Man Table & Honors Ceremony
REMEMBER ME - I first
became aware of the
Missing Man Table and
Honors Ceremony at the
VFW in Comstock, MI. I
was so impressed by the
dignity of the ceremony
sacrifice made by those
left behind, that I went
home and wrote this
song. Remember me and
bring me home is the
plea of all those left
behind.
REMEMBER ME

I’m  a lonely soldier I don’t know where I am

They just keep on moving me around this prison that I’m in

Every day is cloudy just like the day before

I know the war must be over, I’ve been here far too long


Does anybody there still miss me? Does anyone still care?

I hope someone still loves me

Enough to come and  take me out of here


I’ve seen my life pass before me but I’m still hanging on

I must keep on believing God will help you bring me home
I dream of being home as a child. It helps dull the pain I’m going through

I pray someday my brother soldiers will come and free me from this place


Until that day comes I’ll keep on praying every day of each passing year

Freedom is coming, Oh I feel my soldiers are near

And I pray I’ll be coming home to you
Links to some of the many
POW/MIA Sites
All rights reserved. Unauthorized duplication is
a violation of applicable laws.
Lyrics copyright Don Mathews
2005/2006/2007/2008/2009/2010/2011
Missing Man Table
VFW Post 6252
Comstock, MI
Missing Man Table Ceremony 2007
POW/MIA Balloon Launch
Link to pictures and
info about 2007
Milwaukee, WI
POW/MIA Balloon
Launch
Vietnam Veteran POW/MIA Tribute top
fuel dragster sponsored by Evan Knoll -
broke speed records at US 131
MotorSports Park in Martin, MI
We were there!!!
A SOLDIERS PLEA -  CD 'Tributes'
Lyrics and Music by Don Mathews

Ma Ma please don’t forget about me
I’m fighting over here and
I’m oh so scared that I won’t be coming home anymore
So mama please don’t forget about me

You said while I served my country
You’d write me and let me know,  How dad’s doing these days
And how the family is getting along
And mama thanks for taking care of my little one
Since the angels came and took his mama away
Mama I think of you and him every day

Thank you for writing me today. It took awhile for the mail to get to me
We just got attacked,  But with God’s luck we all made it back
That’s when I think of my son and a reason to go on
Thank you for letting me know my son’s now walking
I hope he remembers me when I get home
Tell him I love him and I pray I’ll be home soon
Oh I just got the orders, we’re going out again
I feel there’s something very wrong,   So I’m writing this all down
Mama take care of my son and tell everyone how much I loved all of them
I wish I was coming home on my own, Not with a flag over me
Somehow I knew this was the way that it would be
With six of my friends carrying me
As they carry me from this plane you should not cry
For I always had God by my side

Oh mama please pray for me
I was fighting for our country
I wanted to make a difference
And be home when my son turned two
Oh mama please pray for me
Link to Memorial Web page for
Maj. Robert G. Lapham
KIA in Viet Nam 02/08/1968
Link to Don Mathews Music Page on You Tube
Link to pictures and
info about annual
Milwaukee, WI
POW/MIA Balloon
Launches